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On the outside, you’re the one everyone counts on. At work, in your relationships, in life—you keep it all together. But if we’re being honest, it’s exhausting. Inside, you feel like you’re spinning…stuck in a loop of overthinking, people-pleasing, and trying to keep everyone else happy.
If you grew up with emotionally immature parents, this might sound familiar. Maybe you learned early on to take care of others’ needs while ignoring your own. Maybe you became the “responsible one” who kept the peace, stayed out of trouble, and held everything together. Now, as an adult, those same patterns are leaving you anxious, overwhelmed, and disconnected from what you need.
Anxiety doesn’t just happen randomly. It often stems from old survival patterns you learned in childhood—and therapy can help you rewrite them.
You’ve probably spent years looking like you’re fine—holding it all together for work, relationships, or family. But therapy is different. It’s a space where you don’t have to have it all figured out.
It’s not always easy to know when therapy is the right next step, especially if you’ve been managing anxiety and stress on your own for years. But if these signs sound familiar, it might be time to consider getting support:
Growing up with emotionally immature parents shapes how you see yourself, your relationships, and even the world. These parents might have been:
When your parents weren’t able to meet your emotional needs, you learned to adapt. Often, this meant:
Over time, these survival patterns can turn into:
Even in loving households, emotionally immature parents can unintentionally pass down patterns that shape how you respond to stress, relationships, and your own emotions. It’s not about blaming your parents—it’s about understanding how these dynamics might still be influencing you.
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I use a blend of evidence-based therapies to address the unique challenges you’re facing:
Anxiety isn’t just in your mind—it’s stored in your body. We’ll use somatic tools to help you reconnect with yourself and regulate your emotions, so you feel less reactive and more in control.
We’ll explore how your early relationships and attachment patterns shaped how you show up today—like people-pleasing, perfectionism, or struggling to set boundaries. By understanding these roots, we can work to change how they show up in your life today.
We’ll work on understanding and connecting with your different parts, like:
The perfectionist part that tries to keep you safe by pushing you to overachieve.
The people-pleaser part that avoids conflict to ensure you’re liked and accepted.
The critical part that’s always pointing out your flaws or mistakes.
We’ll go at a speed that feels right for you, whether you’re ready to dive deep or prefer to take things step by step.
You don’t have to figure it all out on your own anymore. Together, we’ll break free from old patterns, calm your nervous system, and create tools to help you handle life with more ease and confidence.
Therapy gives you the tools to recognize these patterns and create new ways of living that feel calmer and more fulfilling. Together, we’ll explore how early experiences shaped your anxiety and work to:
Whether or not you’d describe your childhood as “traumatic,” your anxiety has roots—and therapy can help you untangle them.
It’s okay if you don’t have all the answers yet—starting therapy is the first step toward feeling like yourself again. Whether you’re struggling with anxiety, perfectionism, or the lingering impact of growing up with emotionally immature parents, therapy offers a space to heal, grow, and create a life that feels calmer and more fulfilling.
I specialize in helping adults in Los Angeles work through anxiety, trauma, and the patterns keeping them stuck. Together, we’ll uncover what’s holding you back and create tools to help you move forward.
Click here to schedule a free consultation and find out if we’re a good fit. You don’t have to keep doing this alone. Let’s create space for you to finally prioritize yourself.
The four main types of emotionally immature parents are:
Adult children of emotionally immature parents often experience:
These symptoms aren’t your fault—they’re survival mechanisms you developed in an emotionally neglectful or chaotic environment. Therapy can help you unlearn these patterns and reclaim your confidence.
Not all emotionally immature parents are narcissists, but narcissists are emotionally immature. Narcissistic parents take immaturity to another level by being self-centered, manipulative, and controlling. They see their children as extensions of themselves and often demand perfection or obedience. On the other hand, some emotionally immature parents might not be malicious—they’re just emotionally unavailable or incapable of giving you what you need. Either way, the impact on you as their child can be long-lasting and painful.
Helping adult children of narcissistic parents starts with validation. Narcissistic parents make you question reality, so hearing “what you went through was real, and it wasn’t your fault” is powerful. From there, it’s about teaching them to set boundaries—narcissistic parents rarely respect them, but it’s essential for emotional safety. Therapy can help them unpack the guilt, shame, and negative core beliefs instilled by their parent. Support them in rediscovering their identity, separate from their parent’s control, and remind them it’s okay to prioritize their mental health over maintaining a toxic relationship.
A daughter of a narcissistic father often grows up believing she has to be perfect to earn love or approval. Start by helping her understand that her father’s behavior isn’t about her—it’s about his own insecurities and emotional immaturity. Encourage her to set clear boundaries, especially if he’s still trying to control or manipulate her as an adult. Therapy is crucial for challenging those internalized beliefs like “I’m not good enough” or “I have to work for love.” If her father refuses to respect her boundaries or acknowledge her needs, remind her that it’s okay to create distance—even go no contact—to protect her peace and heal.
For some, growing up with emotionally immature parents wasn’t just difficult—it was deeply overwhelming. If your childhood felt chaotic, unpredictable, or unsafe, you might still feel the ripple effects today.
This kind of long-term stress or emotional neglect can lead to what’s called Complex PTSD (C-PTSD). Unlike a single traumatic event, C-PTSD develops from repeated or ongoing emotional distress—often in relationships with caregivers.
Anxiety doesn’t come out of nowhere. For many adults, it’s linked to patterns learned early in life—whether or not you’d call your childhood “traumatic.” Growing up with emotionally immature parents, you may have adapted in ways that felt necessary at the time but now leave you feeling stuck.
As a child, we’re wired to seek connection and safety from your parents. When that wasn’t available, your brain and body adapted to protect you—by making you hyper-aware of others’ needs, avoiding conflict, or striving for perfection.
These patterns often stick with you into adulthood, showing up in your relationships, career, and even your mental health. It’s not your fault, but it is something you can change.
